The perpetrators of the recent
spate of financial frauds
in the USA acted with callous
disregard for both their employees
and shareholders - not to
mention other stakeholders.
Psychologists have often remote-diagnosed
them as "malignant, pathological
narcissists".
Narcissists are driven by
the need to uphold and maintain
a false self - a concocted,
grandiose, and demanding psychological
construct typical of the narcissistic
personality disorder. The
false self is projected to
the world in order to garner
"narcissistic supply" - adulation,
admiration, or even notoriety
and infamy. Any kind of attention
is usually deemed by narcissists
to be preferable to obscurity.
The false self is suffused
with fantasies of perfection,
grandeur, brilliance, infallibility,
immunity, significance, omnipotence,
omnipresence, and omniscience.
To be a narcissist is to be
convinced of a great, inevitable
personal destiny. The narcissist
is preoccupied with ideal
love, the construction of
brilliant, revolutionary scientific
theories, the composition
or authoring or painting of
the greatest work of art,
the founding of a new school
of thought, the attainment
of fabulous wealth, the reshaping
of a nation or a conglomerate,
and so on. The narcissist
never sets realistic goals
to himself. He is forever
preoccupied with fantasies
of uniqueness, record breaking,
or breathtaking achievements.
His verbosity reflects this
propensity.
Reality is, naturally, quite
different and this gives rise
to a "grandiosity gap". The
demands of the false self
are never satisfied by the
narcissist's accomplishments,
standing, wealth, clout, sexual
prowess, or knowledge. The
narcissist's grandiosity and
sense of entitlement are equally
incommensurate with his achievements.
To bridge the grandiosity
gap, the malignant (pathological)
narcissist resorts to shortcuts.
These very often lead to fraud.
The narcissist cares only
about appearances. What matters
to him are the facade of wealth
and its attendant social status
and narcissistic supply. Witness
the travestied extravagance
of Tyco's Denis Kozlowski.
Media attention only exacerbates
the narcissist's addiction
and makes it incumbent on
him to go to ever-wilder extremes
to secure uninterrupted supply
from this source.
The narcissist lacks empathy
- the ability to put himself
in other people's shoes. He
does not recognize boundaries
- personal, corporate, or
legal. Everything and everyone
are to him mere instruments,
extensions, objects unconditionally
and uncomplainingly available
in his pursuit of narcissistic
gratification.
This makes the narcissist
perniciously exploitative.
He uses, abuses, devalues,
and discards even his nearest
and dearest in the most chilling
manner. The narcissist is
utility- driven, obsessed
with his overwhelming need
to reduce his anxiety and
regulate his labile sense
of self-worth by securing
a constant supply of his drug
- attention. American executives
acted without compunction
when they raided their employees'
pension funds - as did Robert
Maxwell a generation earlier
in Britain.
The narcissist is convinced
of his superiority - cerebral
or physical. To his mind,
he is a Gulliver hamstrung
by a horde of narrow-minded
and envious Lilliputians.
The dotcom "new economy" was
infested with "visionaries"
with a contemptuous attitude
towards the mundane: profits,
business cycles, conservative
economists, doubtful journalists,
and cautious analysts.
Yet, deep inside, the narcissist
is painfully aware of his
addiction to others - their
attention, admiration, applause,
and affirmation. He despises
himself for being thus dependent.
He hates people the same way
a drug addict hates his pusher.
He wishes to "put them in
their place", humiliate them,
demonstrate to them how inadequate
and imperfect they are in
comparison to his regal self
and how little he craves or
needs them.
The narcissist regards himself
as one would an expensive
present, a gift to his company,
to his family, to his neighbours,
to his colleagues, to his
country. This firm conviction
of his inflated importance
makes him feel entitled to
special treatment, special
favors, special outcomes,
concessions, subservience,
immediate gratification, obsequiousness,
and lenience. It also makes
him feel immune to mortal
laws and somehow divinely
protected and insulated from
the inevitable consequences
of his deeds and misdeeds.
The self-destructive narcissist
plays the role of the "bad
guy" (or "bad girl"). But
even this is within the traditional
social roles cartoonishly
exaggerated by the narcissist
to attract attention. Men
are likely to emphasise intellect,
power, aggression, money,
or social status. Narcissistic
women are likely to emphasise
body, looks, charm, sexuality,
feminine "traits", homemaking,
children and childrearing.
Punishing the wayward narcissist
is a veritable catch-22.
A jail term is useless as
a deterrent if it only serves
to focus attention on the
narcissist. Being infamous
is second best to being famous
- and far preferable to being
ignored. The only way to effectively
punish a narcissist is to
withhold narcissistic supply
from him and thus to prevent
him from becoming a notorious
celebrity.
Given a sufficient amount
of media exposure, book contracts,
talk shows, lectures, and
public attention - the narcissist
may even consider the whole
grisly affair to be emotionally
rewarding. To the narcissist,
freedom, wealth, social status,
family, vocation - are all
means to an end. And the end
is attention. If he can secure
attention by being the big
bad wolf - the narcissist
unhesitatingly transforms
himself into one. Lord Archer,
for instance, seems to be
positively basking in the
media circus provoked by his
prison diaries.
The narcissist does not victimise,
plunder, terrorise and abuse
others in a cold, calculating
manner. He does so offhandedly,
as a manifestation of his
genuine character. To be truly
"guilty" one needs to intend,
to deliberate, to contemplate
one's choices and then to
choose one's acts. The narcissist
does none of these.
Thus, punishment breeds in
him surprise, hurt and seething
anger. The narcissist is stunned
by society's insistence that
he should be held accountable
for his deeds and penalized
accordingly. He feels wronged,
baffled, injured, the victim
of bias, discrimination and
injustice. He rebels and rages.
Depending upon the pervasiveness
of his magical thinking, the
narcissist may feel besieged
by overwhelming powers, forces
cosmic and intrinsically ominous.
He may develop compulsive
rites to fend off this "bad",
unwarranted, persecutory influences.
The narcissist, very much
the infantile outcome of stunted
personal development, engages
in magical thinking. He feels
omnipotent, that there is
nothing he couldn't do or
achieve if only he sets his
mind to it. He feels omniscient
- he rarely admits to ignorance
and regards his intuitions
and intellect as founts of
objective data.
Thus, narcissists are haughtily
convinced that introspection
is a more important and more
efficient (not to mention
easier to accomplish) method
of obtaining knowledge than
the systematic study of outside
sources of information in
accordance with strict and
tedious curricula. Narcissists
are "inspired" and they despise
hamstrung technocrats.
To some extent, they feel
omnipresent because they are
either famous or about to
become famous or because their
product is selling or is being
manufactured globally. Deeply
immersed in their delusions
of grandeur, they firmly believe
that their acts have - or
will have - a great influence
not only on their firm, but
on their country, or even
on Mankind. Having mastered
the manipulation of their
human environment - they are
convinced that they will always
"get away with it". They develop
hubris and a false sense of
immunity.
Narcissistic immunity is the
(erroneous) feeling, harboured
by the narcissist, that he
is impervious to the consequences
of his actions, that he will
never be effected by the results
of his own decisions, opinions,
beliefs, deeds and misdeeds,
acts, inaction, or membership
of certain groups, that he
is above reproach and punishment,
that, magically, he is protected
and will miraculously be saved
at the last moment. Hence
the audacity, simplicity,
and transparency of some of
the fraud and corporate looting
in the 1990's. Narcissists
rarely bother to cover their
traces, so great is their
disdain and conviction that
they are above mortal laws
and wherewithal.
What are the sources of this
unrealistic appraisal of situations
and events?
About the Author
Sam Vaknin is the author of
Malignant Self Love - Narcissism
Revisited and After the Rain
- How the West Lost the East.
He is a columnist for Central
Europe Review, PopMatters,
and eBookWeb , a United Press
International (UPI) Senior
Business Correspondent, and
the editor of mental health
and Central East Europe categories
in The Open Directory Bellaonline,
and Suite101 .
Visit Sam's Web site at http://samvak.tripod.com
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