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Dysfunctional give and take
Dysfunctional give and take
I've recently been working with groups of women who are unable to stop 'giving' to others. But their behaviour is unhealthy because it's 'co-dependent'. Co-dependence sounds like something good, but it isn't. It's very...
Eating in Restaurants the New Addiction
Addicted to Restaurants Are you addicted to restaurants? So are lots of Americans. What used to be a "treat," going out for dinner, has become more common that cooking at home, and we think we're better off? Think again. Restaurant eating, fast...
Pornography Addiction
I do not have a pornography addiction; that is my official party line. At least it was until I visited this site that came highly recommended. If you are a porno-phile like myself, I challenge you also to take this "test." Dr. Douglas makes some...
Teenage Gambling and Addiction
Gambling today is all around us. From the local lottery to
football pools at work, gambling has become as much a part of
our lives as shopping or eating with the family. But for
millions of teens it may develop into so much more than...
Why Do We Need Our Addictions?
If money is considered to be the root of all evil, then what would we classify as our addictions? The psychology of the human mind is ultra complex when compared to any other species on earth, so why does it love to tangle itself up in a...
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What Schools Can't Teach Hurts You
Some people in your community
have big problems that cost
you. The problems cost you
in taxes for police services,
in out-of-pocket expenses
for replacement of stolen
equipment or in emotional
drain from constant but suppressed
fear of personal attack.
We think of drugs, home invasions,
addictions and car theft as
functions of modern communities.
We believe that high divorce
rates, homelessness and break-ins
form the basis for a new kind
of society that never existed
in the past, a reality of
the 21st century.
Personal problems of others,
such as poverty, mental breakdown,
spousal abuse and school yard
bullying we prefer to avoid
thinking about.
They all derive from two causes:
people who can't manage to
cope with the downturns or
conditions of their lives
and people who don't have
a clear moral foundation about
such things as murder, hurting
others and stealing.
Some turn to crime, addictive
drugs or alcohol, life-threatening
thrills or violence when they
can't cope with conditions
they fear and can't manage.
Since psychologists and therapists
deal with these very problems
every day, we simply need
to apply their knowledge to
younger people before they
need it, before they "break"
from social standards of normal
behavior.
Schools teach concepts; it's
what they do. They believe
they're not allowed to teach
some concepts due to regulations
forbidding the teaching of
religion.
We need to separate religious
teaching from the basic principles
that people of all religions
agree upon and allow schools
to support the teaching of
them by parents. No one wants
to become a drug addict, a
divorcee or a felon, but most
don't see other options.
Kids need consistency from
their authority figures during
their formative years, both
at home and at school. Both
home and school need to provide
role models, teach standards
of their communities and encourage
children to seek help when
they have problems.
The methodology and means
to rearrange school curriculum
to address social and emotional
development of children provides
the main focus of a new book
by Canadian sociologist and
educator Bill Allin. Turning
It Around: Causes and Cures
for Today's Epidemic Social
Problems gives easily
and cheaply implemented solutions
to the worst social problems
of any community.
Today's kids need more than
traditional facts and skills
to survive extraordinary demands
on their social and emotional
development as adolescents
and adults. A child with a
social or emotional problem
can't progress intellectually
because the former preoccupy
their minds, their attention
and their emotions.
Schools are in the best position
to help support time-challenged
parents.
Learn more about this unique
approach to solving community
problems and avoiding personal
ones at the book's web site:
http://billallin.com/cgi/index.pl
Contact Bill Allin:
705 - 657 - 9468
http://billallin.com/cgi/index.pl
turningitaround@sympatico.ca
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/turningitaround
Bill Allin
R. R. #1 Buckhorn
Ontario K0L1J0
Canada
About the author:
Bill Allin taught primary,
junior and intermediate classes
of all socio-economic categories
for nearly two decades in
Canada. He gained an unusual
perspective on children's
needs, social skills and coping
mechanisms that other professionals
have overlooked. He holds
a Master of Education degree
from the Ontario Institute
of Education, University of
Toronto.
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