Are you going through a tough time in your life? Do you feel like you're all
alone with your problem?
Chances are that there are
a lot of other people who
are facing a similar difficulty
right now, perhaps even other
people in your own community.
You can find the help and
support you need to get through
this period, as well as find
helpful advice and good friendships
by joining a support group
made up of other people who
are struggling with the same
problem that you are.
Whatever your current problem
happens to be, whether you
are struggling with an addiction,
or perhaps someone you love
is an addict, or if you are
finding life hard because
you have just been diagnosed
with a serious illness, or
if you don't have many friends
to turn to because you are
socially isolated, joining
a support group is a way to
quickly fill your life with
kind and caring people who
will help you on your journey.
What is a support group? It
can be a formal or informal
group of people who get together
on a regular basis to share
certain aspects of their lives
with others and to offer each
other emotional support.
Sometimes these are also called
self help groups.
Perhaps the most famous of
the support groups that exist
today is Alcoholics Anonymous
(A.A.). This organization
started in about 1935 in Akron,
Ohio, when two alcoholics
found that talking to each
other about their drinking
and following a simple program
helped keep them both sober.
Since that beginning, the
A.A. organization has spread
throughout the world and millions
of alcoholics have learned
to stay sober by helping each
other.
The A.A. model has been adopted
by people dealing with addiction
problems other than alcohol,
so today there are support
groups that deal with addictions
to narcotics, cocaine, food,
and many other substances
and activities.
In addition, there are support
groups that use the A.A. model
to help the partners or children
of addicts. Being the spouse
or child of an alcoholic or
addict brings with it certain
painful problems that are
often best understood by other
people who have lived a similar
experience.
Support groups that use the
A.A. framework are often called
"12 Step Groups". That is
because these groups base
their founding principles
and traditions on the 12 steps
which were proposed by the
initial founders of the first
Alcoholics Anonymous groups.
One of the key principles
of the support groups using
the A.A. model is the tradition
of secrecy. People who attend
these meetings use only their
first names. They do not publicly
advertise their participation
in 12 Step groups. Everything
said at these meetings is
meant to be kept strictly
confidential by those who
attend.
It is because of this tradition
of secrecy that those who
attend the meetings can feel
free to discuss extremely
personal matters.
Not only have 12 Step groups
enabled millions of people
to overcome their addictions,
reclaim their lives and gain
peace of mind, they also foster
close friendships and emotional
intimacy for many of those
who attend.
Not all self help or support
groups are fashioned on the
12 Step A.A. model. Many support
groups today exist to help
people battle specific diseases.
For example, there are support
groups for people who have
been diagnosed with breast
cancer, diabetes, heart disease,
and many less common illnesses.
Some support groups also raise
money and awareness to combat
specific diseases.
Support groups for people
with diseases can provide
a lifeline for people who
are newly diagnosed with some
frightening ailment. They
can provide information, help,
and hope, suggest new treatments
and doctors, and give the
kind of emotional support
that can only come from other
people who truly understand
what it means to face this
particular problem.
Self help groups also exist
for many emotional problems
and social situations.
There are support groups for
single parents, for widowed
seniors, for teenaged mothers,
and for parents of twins and
triplets. There is even a
support group for people who
have developed emotional problems
after winning the lottery!
You can usually find information
about the location and times
of support group meetings
by checking in a local newspaper
or telephone book.
If you decide to try visiting
an existing support group,
it's best to go several times
before you decide whether
or not it's right for you.
Sometimes a group can have
an "off" night when things
don't quite work well, and
yet other meetings might be
much better.
Of course it is often easier
to find a support group for
an obscure problem if you
live in a large city rather
than in a small town. But
you are not limited by geography
as long as you have a computer-nowadays
there are many support groups
on line.
Using the Internet you can
access people who are willing
to talk about your problem,
at any hour of the day or
night, in any corner of the
world.
Whatever type of problem you
have, it's quite likely that
somewhere in the world there
is a group of people who are
already trying to deal with
the same problem.
And if you can't find the
right kind of support group
locally, another option for
you is to try start up a support
group right where you live.
Not only will you be helping
yourself, but you will also
be helping others, and you'll
probably meet a lot of interesting
and friendly people at the
same time!
About the author:
This article is by Royane
Real, author of several self
help books available at her
website, including "How You
Can Have All the Friends You
Want – Your Complete
Guide to Finding Friends,
Making Friends, and Keeping
Friends" To increase your
circle of friends, download
it today at http://www.royanereal.com
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